Gay cocktail attire

Oh weddings. Those glamorous celebrations of love, religion and typically &#; thanks to thousands of years of tradition and law &#; heterosexuality. Even though it&#;s not your day, going to a wedding as a queer can feel like all eyes are on you. What if the groom&#;s aunt keeps trying to make you dance with her son? What do you perform if you&#;re a bridesmaid who has no idea how to walk in heels? How execute you gussy up and still manage feel like yourself? We&#;ve read your formspring questions, sympathized and rounded up ten very fashionable grrrls and bois who&#;ve survived a wedding or two (or, in Robin&#;s case, in the past 10 years) and even figured out how to have fun. Think of them as your own personal gay fairygodpeople, here to turn your beaters into bowties for one just night.


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How Could You Permit This Happen? HOW COULD YOU LET THIS HAPPEN?

By Ali

T’was the night before my college roommate’s wedding, when all through the house, you could hear me cursing because I’d lost my pants. I know. That doesn’t rhyme. But that’s pretty much what happened.

I got out of the shower, w

A gay wedding with a disco theme, cowboy cocktail attire and local Colorado wildflowers 

Husbands-to-be Tom (he/him) and Scott (he/him) planned their summer wedding with a fabulous party in mind. Their chosen wedding theme was Disco at the Dude Ranch, so they asked their guests to dress in cowboy cocktail attire. “We didn’t want to take the wedding too seriously,” says Tom. “We wanted to throw a fun party with good food and music and have enjoyable with our friends and family.”

The festivities took place in Steamboat Springs, Colorado, and the nearlyweds capitalized on their location to craft a long weekend full of activities and delicious local food. To complement their cornflower-blue-and-tan tint palette, Tom and Scott ordered an assortment of Colorado wildflowers wholesale and had a floral arrangement party with their families before the big time. Scott is a creator by trade and constructed their wedding invitations.

On the morning of their wedding, the couple got ready together. After an outdoor ceremony, Tom and

If you&#;ve ever frantically googled something along the lines of &#;cocktail attire???&#; or &#;what the fuck is evening wear&#; or &#;wedding dress codes explainer,&#; you are not alone. I was raised in an environment in which one might assume I understand the various nuances of dress codes. Hell, I was forced to do cotillion!!!!!!!! And yet, I am lovely clueless when it comes to these stringent attire rules, which is especially frustrating because I have a lot of anxiety about underdressing for events (and would almost always prefer to overdress!). I believe it&#;s safe to say dress codes, like a lot of etiquette rules made a billion years ago by (probably) straight people, are outdated and often even discriminatory, especially when it comes to gender. (While we&#;re getting into it: Dress codes implemented at restaurants are also often employed with racist and/or classist motives.)

When it comes to weddings and other similar formal events, dress codes are expected. But sometimes I assume even people specifying a dress code don&#;t really realize what they mean! I went to a weddin

My work husband from a previous job recently called me asking for approach advice, and the conversation went something like this:

Hubby: Grrrrrl, I got invited to attend a post-conference cocktail party. But, someone told me that the business suit that I&#;m wearing to the daytime workshops would not appropriate for the evening event. Like, do not rock the suit that I&#;m wearing in my LinkedIn profile pic to the party!

Me: Well, it is &#;appropriate&#; to wear whatever your heart desires. But, child, I know you want to be fashion-forward. So, no, do not wear your regular business attire to the party if you want to make a splash. Consider &#;business with a twist.&#;

Hubby: Uh, I don&#;t realize what that means. A shopping kiki is in order before I leave.

Me: Done!

Oooooh, the never closure masculine/&#;menswear&#; cocktail attire conundrum. How does one even begin to crack the cocktail attire dress code, especially if you perform not have the go-to &#;little black dress&#; to fall back on? Even GQ states, &#;Cocktail dress code is one of those annoying dress codes that are